A transformative book about the lives we wish we had and what they can teach us about who we are
All of us lead two parallel lives: the one we are actively living, and the one we feel we should have had or might yet have. As hard as we try to exist in the moment, the unlived life is an inescapable presence, a shadow at our heels. And this itself can become the story of our lives: an elegy to unmet needs and sacrificed desires. We become haunted by the myth of our own potential, of what we have in ourselves to be or to do. And this can make of our lives a perpetual falling-short.
But what happens if we remove the idea of failure from the equation? With his flair for graceful paradox, the acclaimed psychoanalyst Adam Phillips suggests that if we accept frustration as a way of outlining what we really want, satisfaction suddenly becomes possible. To crave a life without frustration is to crave a life without the potential to identify and accomplish our desires.
In this elegant, compassionate, and absorbing book, Phillips draws deeply on his own clinical experience as well as on the works of Shakespeare and Freud, of D. W. Winnicott and William James, to suggest that frustration, not getting it, and and getting away with it are all chapters in our unlived livesâand may be essential to the one fully lived.
Categories:
- Politics & Social Sciences
- Philosophy
- Social Philosophy
- Philosophy
Publisher : Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Author : Phillips, Adam
Language : English
Edition : First Edition
Published :2013-01-22
Number Of Pages : 224
Binding : hardcover
ISBN-10 : 0374281114
ISBN-13 : 9780374281113
Item weight : 0.75 lb
Dimensions : 1.1 in x 5.8 in x 8.2 in
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